Be a man: on taking leadership roles and reclaiming your masculinity

05 Jan

Admit the truth: Men have become weak. They suck up. They pander. They play games. They pout and cry and wear makeup to hide the tears. They have become metro rather than manly. Either that or they are just plain obnoxious and way too full of testosterone to relate to anything more emotional than a rock.

Men have lost their ability to be real men in our society. When it comes to relationships they obey their girlfriend without question. Possibly arguing a bit for show but this is only token resistance (the same kind a girl will show when she wants to make out with you but her circle of friends says its too soon). For some men they are only hoping to suck up enough to possible get laid once in a while. For others they are buying into this materialistic Christian idea that the woman is a princess and should be bought with many gifts.

Real character is lacking. Real purpose is non-existent. Real ability to take control of situation is gone. Questions like “what do you want to do?”, “where do you want to go?”, “do you like what I’m wearing”, “are you ok?” used to be reserved for the woman. Now men are asking permission for their every move, not out of genuine care but rather out of  a lack of purpose or ability to be a man and make a decision.

And, if a man practically asks you to walk all over him why wouldn’t you girls? Why buy the cow when the milk is free, right? Why pay a servant when your slave does all the work for nothing?

These kinds of men do not attract women. Sure they may occasionally settle for someone as indecisive and insecure as themselves and convince them to coexist in mutual misery. Or perhaps a woman may for a time take advantage of the benefit of having a little boy toy for a while. But the reality is that while no woman wants a controlling domineering man, almost all women want a man who can make a decision, who is busy living life outside of her demands, and who can direct a situation with determination.

Feminism did a lot of great things for society. But one [possibly] unintended side-effect was that men became scared of taking on any leadership roles. They lost the ability to think for themselves. Women naturally took up their slack. But this is not necessarily what they wanted. When a woman gets asked out on a date she will be much more romantically inclined if the guy actually has a plan and shows some initiative. Numerous women have told me “if he only had the balls to ask, I would have given him my number” and variations on that theme.

The real man decides “we’re going to the melting pot, dress nice” rather than asks “would you prefer steak or Chinese or Italian, something fancy or something cheap”. He says “come with me I have something fun to show you” instead of asking “what do you wanna do tonight?”. Ever seen The Tourist? Remember this quote:

Elise: Invite me to dinner, Frank?
Frank Tupelo: What?
Frank Tupelo: Would you like to have dinner?
Elise: Women don’t like questions.
Frank Tupelo: Join me for dinner.
Elise: Too demanding.
Frank Tupelo: Join me for dinner?
Elise: Another question.
Frank Tupelo: I’m having dinner, if you’d care to join me.
[Elise smiles at him]

The real man learns the woman’s likes and dislikes and on his own and adapts where necessary. Some things he can compromise on. Like avoiding Mexican when he’s eating with her if she absolutely hates it. Not bringing up a touchy subject from her past when she doesn’t want to talk about it. Being emotionally understanding. Others he cannot like giving up his time with the guys in the gym every Saturday morning because she really wants to see him.

Once again this is NOT about being some kind of macho retard who dominates woman and tells them what to do. These men are just as pathetic as the wimps and suckers. This is simply about being a man and recognizing you can make decisions on your own and take action without asking permission to use YOUR time the way you like. And certainly, in more serious long term relationships there are adaptions that need to be made. It’s great to get your girl’s opinion. It’s probably a good idea if your wife knows where you’re going if you leave the house at midnight tonight. But your new girlfriend that you met at freshman seminar has no business knowing this stuff.


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Posted by on January 5, 2012 in James


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