Why not “courting” or “being together”, “in a relationship” or just “dating”? The most straight-forward answer is that culture, pop-culture and sociology call it that, and that’s what it is. Some don’t like it because it sounds so mercantile. Well… maybe some aspects are.
Why is dating a game?
Like other games, there are winners, losers and hurdles to go through. There are right ways to play and dirty ways to play it. In short, there is a certain way to go about it.
How does one play the game? Well… everybody plays it, everybody who wants a relationships that is. Whether they are good or not, they have to get in the game to get a result. There are shortcuts, but there are also rough spots.
“Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.” Keanu Reeves
It’s one thing to like somebody. It’s a whole other thing to have them like you back and developing a relationship. This is what we want to talk about in our blog: how to play the game. How to get good at it, and get the relationships you want.
Like everything else in life, getting good takes practice. You have to learn how to play it and practice getting good at it. We’ve spent a good amount of time learning this game, both in theory and in practice. In the end our desire is that everybody is in a relationships, and is happy in it. This doesn’t happen over night and it does not happen naturally (like in the movies).
To be a person that others like, you have to spend time developing yourself. Refining strengths and developing skills takes time and planning. One does not become high-caliber by wanting to be that. It takes being pro-active.
Have you been hurt in a relationship? Have you had a great experience? We want to hear from you. Let us know what you think. Let’s talk about “the game”.
*(Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici)